所有美好的东西2010

刚开始在垃圾房看到那个带血的蓝色丝巾搞不懂是啥，想了很久才想起。。。哦！是那个哈士奇脖子上的围脖！

An interesting thriller featuring two of my favourite leads. Unsurprisingly the acting is great by not only them, but the entire cast. Although cliche to a fault, it is a great story by itself, but definitely has the feel of a missed opportunity for something much bigger. I understand the back story, the father-son relationship aspect of the film, and I like the tone that gives the film, but perhaps it dwelled on that a little too much and missed the more human aspect of the characters.

跟朋友谈起来，好像工薪族养大的小孩，都或多或少有些跟家庭相关的童年阴影。
比如很小的时候父母过世，或者父母大战八百回合摔掉家里所有锅碗瓢勺然后离异，或者父母一方是个有恶习的asshole，再或者父母本身就有些性格问题或者family issue。更或者，很小的事情都会成为童年阴影的来源。
看多了犯罪片，赫然发现我们都有成为连环杀手的潜质。
电影里的男主这辈子最被人对不起的事，就是眼睁睁看着老妈坠楼身亡。这打击当然巨大，但他之后的生活也算平静幸福。从小到大作为继承人脱线多次，老爹也并没有逼他或者放弃他。妻子Katie和她的家人也全心全意地接纳了他。中间虽然摩擦磕碰不断，她最后还是回了他的家。
所以他为什么就成了杀人凶手呢？而且杀掉的总是爱他的人。

所以这部片第一点绝对是单身女青年的噩梦。蜜月的男主是个多么正常的小伙子啊，更何况从常理讲，大把票子养大的小朋友不都应该无忧无虑开朗向上么？连这种人都有这样那样心理阴影，其他摸爬滚打一路挫折长大的人岂不是更阴湿发霉心理变态？所以结婚神马的要找谁？？？？
第二点是已婚有娃的妇女的噩梦。娃真的好难养哦，稍有不慎就会造成童年阴影或者性格扭曲。从小百依百顺，某一次不给钱了小孩就抡刀砍父母的有，从小严加管教严格规范，某此吵架时小孩抄斧子削父母的有，无缘无故，稍微有点不顺心就砍父母的也有。
我之前曾经有想过念发展心理学的最后放弃了，翻了几本书之后发现养娃真的需谨慎。小孩是个危险品。

或许人总是对自己爱的人和事物要求过高。如果男朋友或者父母不理解自己想法或者忽略自己感受，就会万箭钻心“你怎么会不理解我呢，别人可以，但是是你啊！”衍伸到“搞了半天是我一头犯贱，那好今后我也用你对我的方式对你，我们两不相欠。”
反而忘了最简单的一个道理：人毕竟都是孤独的，人是不可能完全理解另外一个人的。
因为总会有一段人生他们未曾参与。
所以不如打开天窗。坦率几分，告诉他们，‘我一直都很爱你们’，‘请你们不要猜测我，我在想什么，我会好好告诉你，所以请你也告诉我。’

On the scene in the opening credits when a young Durst shoots a toy gun at his mom:

"I did like guns when I was a little kid, I remember that."

On meeting Kathie’s family:

"That is one of the major regrets in my life, is the way I treated her family, her mother. They’d never met anything like me before, this guy with piles of money and terrible manners. I used to feed the dog while I was sitting at the table. I used to talk about making love to Kathie at the dining-room table in front of her mother. [I was] absolutely impossible."

On why Kathie’s family paid for the wedding, despite the Dursts’ enormous wealth:

"The bride’s family pays for the wedding."

On his shock that Kathie was accepted to the Albert Einstein School of Medicine:

"I just didn’t think she would be accepted. I thought that if she was accepted to medical school, it would be one of the lesser-rated schools. My shock was somewhat tempered … [since] the reason she got accepted at Albert Einstein was because my grandfather was a founder of Albert Einstein."

On his refusal to help pay for Kathie’s school, and the cancellation of her credit cards:

"I was always, always, always very controlling. In terms of the stuff that’s out there — that I tried to get her out of medical school, that I wouldn’t pay her tuition — I wouldn’t pay her tuition because she’d hired lawyers, my lawyer insisted that I don't pay for anything that I hadn’t paid for in the past, and she’d gone and done one of those federal programs where they pay for it and you take a loan. The lawyer said, 'Don’t pay for the medical school.'"

"Yes, I cancelled her credit card and took her off the bank account, but she had her own bank account and I didn’t want her on mine, or I guess I was told that she shouldn’t be on [my] credit card — she could get her own credit cards."

"She never filed for divorce. She wanted a child, to have children, and she wanted me to not always be the dominant one, to not always make all the decisions in the marriage."

On the scene where Gosling’s character storms into Dunst’s graduation party and pulls her out by her hair:

"This is close. After a number of years, before, where we would go to her family’s house for a function, I would insist that we agree on how long we are going to stay: two hours, three hours, four hours. We would always do a negotiation, and when the time was up, I was ready to leave."

"I’ve seen the story about the hair two different ways. One way, I drag her out of the house by her hair; the other way, I grab her hair and a big chunk comes out. Either way is close enough."

On the scene in which Dunst’s character seeks refuge in a neighbor’s apartment in the midst of a fight with Gosling’s character:

    Durst: This is more or less accurate. I don’t know why she would go in our neighbor’s window as opposed to go to their door. But it was pouring, and we were having a wrestling, shoving-type fight, and she ran out on the terrace and ran into their apartment. Said she was afraid to come home. [I] said, "She doesn’t want to come home, she doesn’t have to come home."

    Jarecki: Did you feel like she was really afraid to come home?

    Durst: I’ve got no idea. I didn’t really care one way or another what she did. It was late and I was just tired."

On the part where Dunst’s character discovers Gosling’s character killed Igor, the family dog:

    Durst: This made me feel bad about the movie, Andrew. I mean, the idea that I could kill Igor, I don’t like.

    Jarecki: Well, there was a lot of discussion about you having had a lot of dogs over the years, a bunch of [which] were named Igor. Someone said to us at one point that you had seven dogs over ten years or something."

    Durst: No. We had two Igors before the Igor that lasted forever. One of them got run over, and one of them, when he was a puppy, went out and … ate an apple core. The apple core got stuck in his gut. We did an operation on him, and he died.

On his relationship with Morris Black:

    Durst: [In Galveston, I] didn’t know anybody there to begin with, and when I left, I didn’t know anybody but Morris Black. And we were both loners and had some strange things in common and didn’t do much. There’s not that much to do in Galveston, anyway, but whatever it was, we did it. Went to some movies. Saw Traffic.

    Jarecki: The movie Traffic?

    Durst: Yes, the movie Traffic.

    Jarecki: You didn’t just sit and watch traffic.

    Durst: [Laughing] There wasn’t even much traffic in Galveston.

On Morris Black’s death and dismemberment:

"I remember it very, very, very clearly, and I remember the nightmare I went through over the next several days trying to decide what to do, deciding I could not go to the police, the police aren’t going to believe this, nobody’s going to believe that I came down here to Galveston a rich guy, rented a $300-a-month apartment disguised as a woman, and oh, by the way, my neighbor is lying in my kitchen with a shot in the face from my gun …"

"They never found the head. I have no idea why. I do know that there must have been 15 garbage bags full of body parts and other stuff with blood on it or whatever, and they found 12. Why they didn’t find the other ones, since they were all dumped in the same place, I have no idea."

纽约房地产亿万大富豪罗伯特 – 德斯特（Robert Durst ）的第一任妻子凯思林于1982年1月底神秘失踪。当时他们夫妇正闹离婚纠纷。凯思林失踪的前一天晚上，正在参加一个舞会，突然接到德斯特的电话。她接完电话对好友吉尔伯特说：我必须赶回家去，“万一我发生了什末不测，一定要为我查明真相，好吗？我真担心德斯特会做出什末疯狂举动”。四天后，德斯特报警，说凯思林失踪。凯的朋友们无不对德斯特严重怀疑，但是警方始终没有查出线索。

2000年，警方联络上凯斯林的好友女作家苏珊 – 伯曼，要苏珊协助调查。苏珊曾向德斯特询问凯思林失踪的问题。其后，德斯特给苏珊寄过两张支票，每张金额2 . 5万美元，德解释说是“送礼”。2000年12月11日，苏珊突然在家中被人枪杀。警方勘察，没有破门而入的痕迹，子弹又是从脑后射入苏珊头颅，所以判断是被苏珊认识的熟人所杀，并认为德斯特有重大嫌疑。德斯特没有充分理由解释为什末给苏珊寄支票，也被怀疑是为了“封”苏珊的口。

2001年9月30日，德克萨斯州加尔维斯顿市的海滩上发现一具没有头和四肢的躯干。转天，同一水域捞起两只袋子，一只装着一条人腿，一只装着两支胳臂。同时，警方还从水底捞出一只装着钢锯的塑料套，一张从当地五金店购买塑料袋的购物单，一件衣服，一张报纸。警方很快查出，死者是失踪的71岁老人莫里斯–布莱克。

警方在搜查布莱克住所时发现，有一道血迹一直延伸到布莱克邻居“德洛西 –辛娜”的房间。在对“辛娜”家进行搜查时，搜出一双血淋林的靴子和一把刀。据此深入追查，查明真正的“辛娜”，是德斯特的同学，并不在德克萨斯州居住。而假“辛娜”正是德斯特男扮女装冒充的。警方立即逮扑了德斯特。

警方审讯过程中，德斯特在铁证面前，承认了杀死和肢解布莱克的罪行。他交代，男扮女装冒充“辛娜”到德克萨斯州居住，是因为前妻失踪和苏珊被杀，他被怀疑，而进行逃避。他说，不是有意杀死布莱克。起因是，布莱克性情暴躁，两人经常争吵，有时还大打出手（此一情节有人证明）。2001年9月28日，他发现布莱克进入他的住房，手持他的枪。两人扭打过程中，枪走了火，射中布莱克脸部致死。他“吓坏了，害怕警方不相信他所说的经过”，所以肢解尸体，抛尸灭迹。

法院审讯时，检察官按“谋杀罪”提起公诉，如果罪名成立，德斯特面临99年徒刑。陪审团经过五天审议，于2003年11月11日做出裁决，完全出乎所有人的意料，竟然是“无罪释放”。当法庭宣判这一判决时，连德斯特本人都“吓了一跳”，嘴巴微微张开，眼睛流出泪水。他拥抱律师说：“太谢谢你了”！检察官听到这一判决感到惊愕，连说：“令人失望，令人沮丧！”他认为，德斯特一贯说谎，是个“冷血杀手”；德斯特的行为用他自己的说法是无法解释的。

可惜的是，美国媒体对本案没有后续的追踪报道。陪审团根据什末理由裁定德斯特“无罪”？作出如此荒唐判决的原因和背景是什末？都没有下文，也没人再追究。这种不了了之的现象，在美国并不少见。除了反映美国司法制度和司法工作存在严重弊端，也反映美国的新闻自由并不是像某些人吹嘘或想象的那样完美。“家丑不可外扬”和“为富者讳”的现象在美国不是不存在。

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